How we select our friends.

 

Have you ever wondered what led you to your current circle of friends?   For some people , it’s so easy to  interact with people thus making friends but for some , it’s like climbing Mount Everest . Recently , I came across an article about tulpas . Tulpas are imagined sentient companions who exist within the mind of their human hosts and have their own individual personality despite sharing the same mental space. For example if the host personality is fearful and shy, the tulpa is courageous and fearless . The tulpa will step in when the host personality is down in the dumps.

The point is, the host personality differs from the tulpa in terms of complementary personality traits. Now, the complementarity principle states that people choose friends who are different from them.Individuals seek out acquaintances who have opposing viewpoints.They want their ideas and perspectives to be questioned. Some people are not adventurous. As a result, they seek out companions who can assist them in expanding their horizons and learning new skills. It's crucial to remember, though, that friendships are formed voluntarily and with intention. So, we don't have to be angry since there must be something for one to gain.

So, in a nutshell, it indicates that we are drawn to specific personality traits. That is most likely why, despite living in the same neighborhood, some people do not become friends. If you ask someone to describe their friend to you, they would most likely cite their friend's unique characteristics. It's just another way of stating they thought they were "different." As the law of attraction in physics states ‘unlike charges attract .’ 

This does not have to be the case all of the time. Some people seek out persons who share similar characteristics in order to feel at ease.